Middos Challenges Library
Hakaras HaTov (Gratitude)
- Expressing Gratitude to People
- Tracing Back to the Source
- Even Without Intent
- Paying it Back
- Begin a Gratitude Journal
- Focusing on What You Have
- The Ultimate Joy: Acquiring Eternity
- Being Happy with Yourself
- Verbalizing Your Happiness
- Flipping Bad into Good (V’Nahafoch Hu)
- Exercising Self-Control
- Spreading Happiness to Others
- Smile at Yourself!
- Hashem Can Do ANYTHING!
- Hashem is Involved in My Life
- My Own Power
- Speaking Words of Emunah
- Seeing Through the Illusion of Nature
- Do People Have Any Power?
- Filling Up Your Cup of Hishtadlus
- It’s All for the Best
- Say It’s in Hashem’s Control
- Giving Credit Where Credit is Due
- Seeing the Greatness in Other People
- Realizing There’s Always More Room to Grow
- Daily Act of Humility
- The Ultimate Way to Emulate Hashem
- Hidden Chessed: Being a True Giver
- Seeking Out Opportunities to Give
- No Chessed is Ever Too Small
- Overcoming Your Earthy Nature
- Finding Out What Hashem Wants
- Saving Yourself from Egypt
- Keeping Your Eyes Open
- Using Clarity to Defeat the Yetzer Hara
- What Will Everyone Think of Me?
- Does it Really Matter?
- Lies and Illusions
- I’m Not Your Slave
- Inside-Out (V’Nahafoch Hu!)
- Delaying the Yetzer Hara
- Being True and Trustworthy
- Being True to Yourself
- Hashem is the Only Emes
- Hearing the Emes
- The Power to Create or Destroy
- Think Before You Speak
- Needing to Prove Ourselves
- Emulating Hashem’s Incredible Silence
- Tone of Voice
- Understanding a Different Perspective
- It’s All from Hashem
- What You Need and What I Need
- Hashem Takes Care of Me
- Being Happy for Others
- Unity: When We Are One
- You Matter
- Can You See My Crown?
- The Power of a Smile
- Seeing Your Potential
Menuchas HaNefesh (Calm)
- Focusing on the Present
- Shabbos Menucha
- Calm and Content
- A Brief Review
Kiddush Hashem (Honoring G-d)
- What’s Missing?
- Your Personal Kiddush Hashem
- For Your Eyes Only
- What a Nice Jew!
Ahavas Hashem (Loving G-d)
- Noticing the Gifts
- Connecting to Our Source
- Giving Up for Those You Love
- What Would You Like?
Holidays: Part II
- Cheshbon HaNefesh: What Will I Gain?
- Doing it Differently
- Rectifying with the Same Limb
- “Breaking” Your Heart for Hashem
Elul: Kabbalas Ol Malchus Shamayim
- Crowning Hashem as Our King
- Shema: Recognizing the Oneness of Hashem
- We Need YOU!
- Crowning Hashem with Joy
Preparing for the Yamim Noraim
- Rosh Hashana: Focusing on the Future
- Tzom Gedalia: Building Fences
- Yom Kippur: Emulating Hashem’s 13 Middos of Mercy
- Yom Kippur: A Cry for Help
- Sukkos: Connecting to Hashem Through the Basics of Life
- Hoshana Rabbah: Aravos: The Power of the Mouth
- Shemini Atzeres: Dveikus Through Torah
- Hashem Can Do Anything
- Renwed Commitment
- Doing CHEW-vah Mei’Ahavah
- What Are the Trees Saying?
Purim and Adar
- Rosh Chodesh Adar: Smile At Yourself!
- The Fast of Taanis Esther
- Purim Katan: Together, We Are One
- (See Chapter 2: Simcha)
- (See Chapter 9: Ta’avah)
- (See Chapter 3: Emunah)
- (See Chapter 7: Zrizus)
Holidays: Part II
Shavuos: Appreciating Torah
- The Blueprint of Creation
- My Personal Life
- Supporting the Entire Universe
- Grabbing on to the Tree of Life
- It’s Happening Right Now
The Three Weeks: Combating Sinas Chinam
- Focusing on Unity
- Understanding the Root of Jelousy
- Dan L’Kaf Zechus: Judging Favorably
- Every Jew is Loved by Hashem
The Three Weeks: Galus and Geulah
- Learning to Be a Giver
- Separate from the Nations
- Can You See Me?
- Davening for the Geulah
- 11 Chesvan: The Silence of Rachel Imeinu
- 7 Adar: How Can You Emulate Moshe Rabbeinu
- Lag Ba’Omer: A Lesson in Bitachon
- 17 Tammuz: Why Are We Fasting?
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